tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525161379578984040.post403743762015298835..comments2023-12-15T00:45:21.381-05:00Comments on Unmapped Country: TMI? The Tao of WorryHope Perlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10599511890390199730noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525161379578984040.post-81860388824743231812013-03-07T22:34:37.241-05:002013-03-07T22:34:37.241-05:00Scrollwork, maybe you're right about the guilt...Scrollwork, maybe you're right about the guilt. Maybe guilt is the trigger and I feel like I have to balance out the good stuff with bad stuff. It's kind of superstitious, in a way. Like a talisman, only it's guilt. Are you sure you're not a psychotherapist???<br /><br />I suppose it's not death itself that I worry about as much as leaving my children too soon. Also, I worry about suffering. Well. <br /><br />and I worry about my dog dying, so I know the feeling about the cat.<br /><br />I wish you abundance, Scrollwork!Hope Perlmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10599511890390199730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525161379578984040.post-83135155374317423522013-03-07T22:30:37.496-05:002013-03-07T22:30:37.496-05:00You know, I was thinking about how often I worry a...You know, I was thinking about how often I worry about the wrong thing. Something's going to get me, but it won't be what I'm thinking....Hope Perlmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10599511890390199730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525161379578984040.post-42391353592848305992013-03-07T12:56:26.680-05:002013-03-07T12:56:26.680-05:00Could there be guilt behind the worry? I used to f...Could there be guilt behind the worry? I used to feel so guilty that both my husband and I were well off while all around us were homeless people. In a warped way I felt some justice had been restored when I lost my job—our fair share of suffering, if you will. Then I had to learn to feel deserving of abundance. Now I'm working on feeling comfortable with receiving. I had so much pride in being able to give, it turns out. But maybe guilt is not what factors in for you, Hope.<br /><br />Death doesn't worry me. It's the process of growing old, the discomforts, losses, and pain that come with it—that's what I worry about. As with my other worries, I try to combat it by asking, "Is there anything I can do about it right now?" If there is, I do something. If not, then there's nothing to be done, so I can let it go for a little while.<br /><br />One concrete worry that sits on me heavily (like, um, concrete): one day losing my beloved rescued cat, Charlie. He's healthy and still spry at nine, but every day, multiple times a day, the thought crosses my mind that I will lose him someday. Then I read a blog post that detailed how the writer took his aging dogs in to be put to sleep. It was unsentimental yet heartbreaking. He explained how he left one in the truck while he took the first in, so he could devote his full attention to each of them. He wrote about how he looked in their eyes, one second full of affection, the next, lightless. And while I sobbed and moaned, I also knew I had vicariously learned to deal with the time, if it comes for Charlie.<br /><br />So maybe if we worry, we worry more about the unknown. If we can confront our worry in detail, and write the script so that we feel we have some control over how it plays out...it diminishes the worry, somehow.<br /><br />I'll be thinking of you as you await the results of your mammogram. Sending healing prayers up for your left side.Scrollworkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09761198237613139398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6525161379578984040.post-39250906915340265442013-03-07T09:12:31.912-05:002013-03-07T09:12:31.912-05:00I worry about global economic meltdown and losing ...I worry about global economic meltdown and losing my investments. Then I read a book by a woman - Geneen Roth - who lost her entire life savings of a million bucks to Bernie Madoff. She writes that she used to worry about him getting sick, or kicking her out of his fund. Point being, she realized she made her self sick worrying over the wrong things and now realizes, what's the point of worry since the bad thing that happens will rarely be the thing you worry about? IDK, it helped me a lot. Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04571257384231971226noreply@blogger.com